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Inheritance from my mother: The written word

If Minnesota Transplant readers ever wonder where I got the desire to write about all things interesting and inane, you don’t have to look much farther than my mother.

I helped an author publish her book to Amazon recently (read more about that exercise here), and it reminded me how grateful I am for my mother. The book I helped publish to Amazon is titled, “Letters From Mom: A Daughter’s Journal of Healing” and it’s about how the author, Joyce Kocinski, dealt with her grief after her mother’s death. The narrative includes several letters written by her mother.

letters momThe exercise prompted me to sift through my own manila file of “Letters From Mom.”

Most of them were written pre-Facebook in her neat, entirely readable left-handed cursive. Mom still hand-writes letters to me, but now she sends missives via Facebook email quite often, including today’s message: “We received about an inch of much needed rain last night. A wildfire burned roughly 70 acres up by Menahga this week. How’s the second novel coming?”

Mom writes about all kinds of minutia in a lovely way that polishes daily activities like gardening, decorating and visiting into precious artifacts. I aspire to that art of converting the mundane into the extraordinary in this daily blog.

I appreciate Mom’s deadpan delivery, too. She makes me laugh. Here are a few comedic gems from the handwritten letters in my file.:

“Curt is in Long Prairie running this afternoon. He said he ran fast in practice yesterday. We bought something for his diarrhea. I hope it clears it up, so we don’t have to go the doctor, but we will if it doesn’t (Kay!).

For your reference, Curt was my brother, and Kay, to whom this letter was also addressed because we were living together at the time and who apparently delayed seeing a doctor, is my sister.

Here’s a note Mom wrote after I told her I was going for a hot air balloon ride:

“I trust you didn’t fall out of the balloon. Here’s a sample of the wallpaper in the bathroom, too. I’m about 3/4 of the way done.”

Sometimes she even includes pictures:

picture momPhyllis and I lay out Sunday, and I lay out Saturday alone. I have a pretty good tan and also a pretty bad sunburn in a couple of places [drawing]. That area wasn’t exposed to the sun before this summer, I suppose.

Here’s Mom telling me about her weekend. “Bob” is my dad, and “Mills” is New York Mills, a tiny town in Central Minnesota near where my parents live:

“Sunday, Bob, Gene, Kenny, Jerome, Howard, Mark and Jay went golfing at a gold course set up in Howard’s pasture by Mills. It has greens and everything, but also sheep turds. It doesn’t cost anything and isn’t a bit crowded except for the sheep.”

Mom, I treasure you!

Trivial pursuits

If you’ve been reading Minnesota Transplant long enough, you know that some days I really don’t have anything to say.

But I write a post anyway.

Today is one of those days.

I write for practice. I’ve come up with something interesting or inane to say about 26 times a month on average over the past five years. (I don’t obsess with my stats much, no, though astute readers might have noticed I recently surpassed 1,000 followers. If you’re reading me on your iPad, that is. On my PC, I supposedly have 643 followers. Who can account for the vagaries of WordPress stat crunchers? Who pays attention to such minutia anyway?)

In any case, today was one of those rare days in May. I ran 3.53 miles this morning (again, who’s counting?) as the glorious sun was rising. Not too hot, not too cold, it was Goldilocks “just right.” When I walked the dog briefly this evening, it was “just right” again.

Today’s meals? Not worth mentioning, except to say pesto mayo is awesome on a bacon-and-egg sandwiches.

Didn’t do anything worth writing home about either, except one thing: I wrote 877 words on my work-in-progress. Click here for today’s taste of the memories of the year I turned 15.

That’s about it. Oh, I slept well last night, too. Hoping for the same tonight. Here’s wishing you sweet dreams.

Keeping the faith

Some people listen to music with exactly 180 beats per minute while they run.

Some people listen to the sound of their breathing and the sound of their footsteps.

I listen to National Public Radio.

Which may explain why I’m among the world’s slowest runners.

In any case, as I ran to the highest point in Hampshire this morning, I was mesmerized by Krista Tippett’s interview of poet and author Marie Howe who talked about words and writing with depth and magic. On Being’s Tippett recites part of one of Howe’s poems, “The Meadow”:

Bedeviled,
human, your plight, in waking, is to choose from the
words
that even now sleep on your tongue, and to know
that tangled
among them and terribly new is the sentence that
could change your life

Tangled on my tongue — or between my brain and my typing fingers — is the sentence that could change my life. Said Howe, “Language is almost all we have left of action in the modern world. I mean unless we’re in Syria, you know, or we’re in Iraq. But for many of us, action has become what we say. The moral life is lived out in what we say more often than what we do.”

A writer, of course, worships at the altar of Words Are Action.

“It’s easy to attack and destroy an act of creation.
It’s a lot more difficult to perform one.”

~ Chuck Palahniuk

Life isn’t fair

It’s that time of year.

Before terrorist marathon bombings, bankruptcy filings, terroristic letters filled with poison, possibly terrorist-inspired explosions, metropolitan stay-in-place orders and terrorist man hunts mesmerized the news junkie in me this week, the biggest news in my life was that my Adored Stepson was about to graduate from high school.

It’s still the biggest news in my life. I’m proud of him.

As has happened repeatedly when he takes another step towards adulthood, I reflect on those steps in my own life (and I try to forget I graduated 28 years ago — uffda).

As I pondered my own maturity (and lack thereof) at that age, I ran across the editorial I wrote for the last edition of my high school school newspaper, which at the time was called “The Tomahawk.”

Oh, how times have changed. The Indians were the mascot of my high school back then so naming our newspaper after an implement of violence made perfect sense.

The headline of the editorial was “Life isn’t fair.” I thought it was brilliant at the time. Some of it is still brilliant. Some of it is so simplistic. And some of it is so dated (does anyone say “brown nosers” anymore? and does anyone remember why Nicaragua was relevant?).

In any case, here is my 28-year-old editorial, for your weekend reading pleasure. May life return to simple pleasures like graduation parties and old newspaper clips.

From The Tomahawk, May 24, 1985

“Hey, That isn’t fair! He got more than I did!”

When we were in elementary, our teachers and parents did their best to even things out so that everything was fair. Our parents gave each kid the same number of Christmas presents and made us take our turn washing dishes. Our teachers made sure that everyone got a chance to be line leader or team captain. Of course, sometimes there’s a teacher’s pet, but if some things weren’t equal, it generally didn’t matter much anyway. Your future didn’t depend on an extra piece of cake or losing your recess because you punched somebody (and it was his fault!).

But life got more complicated. Fancy Nancy had nice clothes and a boyfriend. Athletic Al could run faster than anyone and never got less than straight A grades. It wasn’t fair! But it got worse. The National Honor Society was just “a bunch of brown nosers,” and you were the one who decorated for the prom — why does someone else get to enjoy it? And how fair is it when someone in the spring of their life is handicapped? Or worse yet, killed? It isn’t fair.

But no one promised us that life was going to be fair. I think our teachers misled us. And what’s fair anyway? It’s all relative — fair is inside the third base line until it reaches the outfield. And it isn’t always we who are cheated. We come out on top just as often as we’re stepped on.

We can say, “It’s not fair” all day long and blame someone else because we were stepped on, but it doesn’t change anything. Instead of expecting life to treat us all equally, we should hope that it does but expect that it probably won’t. And when it doesn’t, instead of holding a pity party for ourselves, we should go out there and attempt to right the wrong.

You’re right. Life isn’t fair. But complaining about it wastes a great deal of time. Life is a journey, and a bad attitude ruins the trip. Accept life’s inequalities. Don’t let them get to you — take them in stride and take consolation in the fact that Fancy Nancy will probably become an unwed mother and Athletic Al will die in Nicaragua. It all evens out.

Short and sweet, new ebook signals love is in the air

Readers of Minnesota Transplant come from far and wide to enjoy bits of humor, diary entries and occasionally useful information here, and today we have a taste of romance.

Yes, it’s time for some shameless self-promotion.

cover shot“8 Slices of Cake,” a romance anthology to which I contributed, is now available for your reading pleasure. The e-book is a great fiction alternative to reading book reviews, recipes and weather reports here on Minnesota Transplant.

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, the book features short stories of fun, romance and the redemptive power of love, all tied to a theme: The fictional couple Michael and Ava are getting married, and all the stories recount experiences of different guests at the reception, dining on pieces of Michael and Ava’s magnificent 8-tier wedding cake. As a bonus, the e-book includes recipes for all eight kinds of cake, including Strawberry Margarita Cake (my personal favorite).

I was among eight international authors who contributed to the work, and it’s interesting to see how the stories tie together.

My story is about a divorcée named Hope and her Aunt Georgia, married to Hope’s favorite uncle, Rufus. Here’s a snippet:

Uncle Rufus was Hope’s favorite uncle, her mother’s thrice-married brother. An unconventional academic who taught creative writing at a university, he was the sort of uncle who thought deeply, laughed often and always was willing to speak the truth.

“What? A wedding hard to take? I love weddings,” Rufus said.

“Obviously,” Hope said, opening her eyes wide.

“You’re not thinking of following in my footsteps, are you? Course, I’m pretty happy now with your Auntie Georgia.”

“Good, third time’s the charm then,” Hope said.

“8 Slices of Cake” is available as an e-book for only $1.99 through Smashwords, a popular distributor of self-published books.

Fans of Kindle, Nook, iBooks, Kobo or any of a half dozen other e-readers can download books at Smashwords to enjoy on your favorite device. Click here for those instructions. You can even get a PDF to read right on your computer.

If you’re interested in following news about “8 Slices of Cake,” “like” the Facebook page for the book here.

Click here for more details on “8 Slices of Cake,” and enjoy!

Not exactly a mountaintop experience

Vivid characters? Check.

Stunning plot twists? Check.

Minnesota setting? Check.

What more could one ask for in a book? Well, a story arc? Would that be too much to ask?

mout joyI appreciated Lorna Landvik’s turn of phrase in “The View from Mount Joy,” especially such gems as “The old woman looked at me, her blue eyes full of the life the rest of her body seemed to have given up on,” but I guess I have just too much A personality to appreciate the journey without a good destination. “Mount Joy” presented an interesting story, but it just meandered around for me.

When I got to the end, I felt like I did at the end of the movie “No Country for Old Men”: That’s it? Are you kidding me? I flipped through the pages looking for more. And there was no more.

“Honestly, there’s not a lot of planning when I start a book,” Landvik says in the author interview in the back of the book (one of the things I ran into, looking in vain for a better ending).

Well, it showed.

It doesn’t help that I just finished reading “Save the Cat” by Blake Snyder, a brilliant little book about screenplay plotting which probably made me more aware of the elements of a compelling story arc.

Bottom line? Read it like you ought to live your life: Savor the journey.

If you appreciate nonlinear storytelling and big words, this blog post is for you (and so is this movie)

Tonight, my Beloved and I watched “The Burning Plain,” a cleverly constructed drama from 2008 about a sommelier, a crop duster in Mexico and a woman having a steamy affair with a Latino.

[I just had to throw "sommelier" out there. One of the characters actually is a sommelier, but when I used that word to reconstruct the story for my Beloved, whose attention lapsed momentarily, he said, "What? What's a sommelier?" "You know, the woman at the restaurant in the beginning?" "You mean Charlize Theron?" "Yes, her. She's a sommelier." "Who uses the word 'sommelier' in everyday conversation?"]

[A sommelier is a wine expert in a restaurant.]

I’m as big a fan of nonlinear narrative as I am of big words, and “The Burning Plain” tells its story in a compelling nonlinear way.

At first, I was impressed with Kim Basinger, who I had assumed was a has-been, but she oozes sexuality and desperation so effectively, I both loved and pitied her.

About halfway through, I figured out what was going on, but by then I was caught up in the characters and wondering how the story would resolve. Brilliant storytelling.

["Memento," the story of a man with short-term memory loss told in reverse order, is another one of those movies that compels viewers to watch it a second time to put all the pieces together.]

Though I have no proof other than deja vu and coincidence, I believe linear time is a human construct. I’m not convinced everything actually happens in sequential, chronological order; I think we human beings with our puny understanding simply experience it that way. So to see a movie that plays with chronology and tells an interesting story fascinates me.

As the final credits rolled on “The Burning Plain,” I said the same phrase I uttered at the end of another nonlinear flick, “The Lake House,” a time-travel romance starring Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock: “I wish I could write a story like that!”

To which my Beloved, ever the optimistic cheerleader even as he scoffs at my vocabulary, replied: “Why don’t you?”

If I was really clever, I would have written this post in a nonlinear narrative fashion.

But I’m not that clever.

‘The Hobbit’ speaks the wonder of the characters

Is “The Hobbit” worth spending two hours and forty-six minutes of your life on?

Sure, if you once read the book. Even if you’ve never seen Peter Jackson’s previous Tolkien triumphs beyond the opening scenes of the third movie, it’s worth seeing especially if your stepson is a big fan of “The Lord of the Rings” trilogy.

Yes, it’s long, and yes, the special effects are amazing.

I was there firstly for the fellowship (of my family, not the dwarves) and secondly for the story.

Like the 12-year-old boy in the front row of our theater who yelled at his parental units as the credits were rolling, “That’s it? That’s it? You took me to this?!” I was a little disappointed that “The Hobbit” doesn’t actually finish telling Tolkien’s story.

I read “The Hobbit” long ago when I was reading The Chronicles of Narnia, taking in all of Judy Blume’s works and rereading The Little House books. I don’t really recall the details of the plot so an unfinished story is OK by me, but I remember J.R.R. Tolkien’s characters.

Seeing the movie today I was reminded how distinctive dialogue creates a character. More than Bilbo Baggins, I remember from the book Gollum, the creature living in the dark who torments the poor little hobbit. All his unnecessary plurals (“Bagginses” and “eggses”) and multiple personalities evoke a powerful sense of creepiness.

Gandalf, too, speaks with a regal air, full of a cadence of magical incantation.

So don’t go to “The Hobbit” because you want a neat little ending and a 90-minute distraction, but it’s worth your time for all the rest.

It’s in the cards

Do you see what I see?

A card, a card, winging through the mail, with a pic and a tale.

The Christmas card season began in earnest today when not one, not two, but three Christmas cards arrived in the postman’s bounty. Oh, joy!

For us dinosaurs who still enjoy snail mail greetings, this is the playoffs, the World Series of the season.

I received one card the day after Thanksgiving, and then a drought, but I expect good wishes to swell from a trickle to a tsunami by the 24th. I myself sweated out the annual missive — complete with photo greeting this year — yesterday. Seventy-four cards are in the mail. Whoop! Whoop!

Merry Christmas! Happy holidays! Happy new year!

Love in an envelope.

Word count mania

The difference between being a high school student and a 40-something blogger: Word count.

Even though good writers everywhere know brevity is the soul of wit, high school (and college) teachers demand papers of certain length, thereby tempting said students to pad prose, widen margins and stuff white space between lines.

I helped my Adored Stepson with a college application statement yesterday and a compare/contrast paper today, and I was thrust into a world where meaning dragged around a ball-and-chain of word count. Meanwhile, I’m dreadfully behind on my NaNoWriMo goals. Oh, how painful it was to write 3,200 words today. Toward the end, I was counting every two dozen additions. Awful slavery.

Bloggers, thankfully, may write only as much as they want and then they quit.

Like this.